“Like the cleaning of a house…it never ends…”
~ The Simpsons
I’ve spent most of my adult life “doing the housework”, often with a soundtrack and then loving that brief period of time when “it’s done”. I’ve tried to create time for myself by doing schedules, having set times for certain jobs, and following tips from Pinterest…..but I still have tons to do at the weekend. I’m always in the mindset of “get the housework done” in one big session. And there we have the paradox ~ even when it’s done, it’s not “done”. It never ends.
I think a lot of these marathon clean up sessions come from having little kids. Not in the way that they are messy and need to be cleaned up after – although there is an element of that. But I think a lot of it stems from the constant stream of visitors. From nursery school up until secondary school your kids have a lot going on socially! The pressure of not wanting to be judged by people is quite intimidating. You want your family to see you are coping and your in-laws to not be in a position to make any snarky comments. Not to mention the parade of parents from school accompanying their kids on play dates and parties. The majority of whom are complete strangers to you!
Wayne Dyer said something along the lines of, if you can’t change something then change your attitude about it. Not always feasible but it works sometimes! This weekend I changed my mindset and didn’t set out to “do” the housework. I did a few bits throughout the day knowing it’s a never ending story. (Is that song stuck in your head now!?)
So it was weird but instead of being a whirlwind all morning and then being too shattered to do anything else all day, I did a few small “me” projects. Nothing amazing, but just a few things that didn’t take long and were interspersed with jobs round the house. I put some herb seeds in, started lace knitting, got my collage stash out, and made some crisps. It was a really nice weekend. And for the first time in ages I did something for me without feeling guilty!
Then I read this article about the 20/10 method which made me laugh but at the same time made a bit of sense. Our ideas on housework are unrealistic and let’s face it we spend an awful amount of time on something we never put on Instagram…ha ha ha…